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Does your child ever tell you his or her dream in the morning?  If they do, be sure to listen up because when he or she tells you their dream, they are really giving you a lot of information about what is going on inside their mind.  Below is from my newspaper column The Dream Zone…

Dear Lauri,
My 5 year old dreamed that he was on the deck with a friend and they noticed a horrible black cloud and they knew it meant danger. They had to jump on the CONCREEP and then he woke up, and came and got in the bed with me.
– Melissa 38, Minneapolis, MN

Lauri: Awe!  You gotta love kid language, huh?  Did your son get in trouble the day before the dream?  I ask because the dark, ominous cloud may represent – to him – a foreboding authority figure because the cloud, like a parent, it is above him.  And if he did get in said trouble, is it because he was doing something that was deemed dangerous?

Melissa replies: He had to get out of the pool yesterday because he couldn’t follow pool rules.  He had to watch his brother continue to swim without him! Maybe I did have an impact?

Lauri replies: You did, you big black cloud of parental authority!  And that is why he had to get on the concrete in the dream, because in real life he had to get out of the pool and stay on the concrete. Just goes to show you that when you think your kids aren’t listening, what you say does seep through.

You see? Melissa now knows that her discipline did make a difference because her son’s dream gave her a glimpse into his psyche. If you don’t already, I highly recommend you make a tradition of sharing your dreams every morning over the breakfast table.  It’s not only a fun way to start the day, but a wonderful way to stay plugged in to your child.

Your dreams are such a powerful part of who you are.  They are giving you answers and direction, even warnings you need to know every night of your life. Why wouldn’t you want the ability to understand these important, even life-changing messages? You can find out what your dreams mean in just seconds from now! Get instant, immediate access to my HUGE online dream dictionary (over 5800 symbols), my interactive dream journal and tons of other powerful dream working tools.  You’ll never have to wonder what your dreams mean EVER again. Find Out What Your Dreams Mean Right Now

Every Wednesday I get to dissect a sex or relationship dream for my friends at Em and Lo: Sex, Love and Everything In Between This week’s dream is from a woman who… well, let’s just say she is awful glad she listened to her dream… I mean, wow!

I was traveling at night in the rain to a baseball game in Oakland (I do not live there, but my boyfriend loves the A’s). On the way I stopped at an apartment . I knocked on the door and was greeted by a beautiful man I did not recognize. I was immediately attracted to him and I tried to leave but a bright silver cord connected us from my chest to his. I gave up fighting and followed the cord until we were in a passionate embrace. I kissed the stranger like he was a long lost lover! We ran to his bedroom and made love, and afterward I went to his closet for a robe.  Then his live-in girlfriend came home! We hid in the closet, terrified. He went out to distract her but she found me. I felt terrible for hurting her but not sorry — I was in love. Then I woke up. - Roslynn

Lauri: Your dream starts where you are driving in the rain, which is a good indication you have been traveling through life with a bit of sorrow lately as that is what the rain is, your tears (even if you only shed them on the inside). Your destination is Oakland, which you connected to something your boyfriend loves. Good job making that connection! This suggests that you are trying to reach a place in your relationship where your boyfriend will love you the way he loves the Oakland A’s.

You make a stop in the dream before you reach your destination because in waking life you need to stop and gather yourself because something is not going so well. The man in your dream is a part of you, he is a part of your self that you need to be attracted to and that you need to unite with (hence the sex) and utilize in your life right now. This is why you were connected to him in your dream… he is you, your male energy, the part of you that can be “ballsy” and stand up for what is right and handle the situation.

The silver chord is widely believed to be our spiritual connection to our own intuition and higher self.  You are connected at the chest because the chest is where the heart is and where we carry our emotions. Your dream may be telling you to “step up to the plate” (since we’re using baseball references) and have a heart to heart with your BF. Notice how you gave up fighting in the dream? You need to give up fighting in real life too – perhaps even quit fighting with yourself – and connect with him on a male energy level. In other words, don’t let your emotions cloud the conversation. Sometimes the pain we feel overpowers or distorts the facts.

Hiding in the closet suggests there is something in waking life you may be hiding, perhaps a certain thought or idea you have been keeping to yourself. The girlfriend represents your role as girlfriend. Yes, everything in your dream is all about you! Your dream is showing you that, as a girlfriend, you need to “open up” about this issue or this thought that you have been keeping to yourself. It may hurt – just as the girlfriend was hurt in the dream – but honesty is always the best policy.

Roslynn’s response: Thank you so much for analyzing my dream.  I was surprised to read the interpretation that I was hiding a thought in real life, because as soon as I read that I knew it was true.  Since March my boyfriend (of two years) and I have been talking seriously about getting married.  I love him so much and we are both excited! He chose a location, we outlined a budget, and we recently agreed to announce to both our families at Thanksgiving.

However, I’ve had a gut feeling that something was off for a little while.  He talks a good game when we are with family and friends but when we are alone the vibe is lacking our usual closeness.  I have asked more than once what’s wrong but he insisted everything was fine.  I tried having more sex, less sex, more dates… nothing helped.

After reading your assessment I knew I couldn’t ignore the elephant in the room any longer.  I did what every woman should restrain herself from doing — I checked his phone.  It was awful!  There were dozens of text messages to other women.  Dozens!  Most were just flirty, some were totally sexual.  It was clear he was having sex with one woman in particular every few weeks!  I was horrified, crushed, nauseated…stunned!  I had been ready to share my life with this man. Suddenly little clues I had been willfully ignoring all fell into place.  He had been cheating on me for months, starting when he privately proposed in March.

Obviously, I confronted him and we had it out Big Time.  How could he do this to me?!? and Why?

He had no excuses.  He crumpled like a wet taco, said he didn’t know why he had done it, the other woman meant nothing to him, he had never wanted to leave me, HE STILL LOVED ME more than ever, it was just sex, he had always planned to stop before the wedding…

I was so hurt and disgusted, with him and myself.  He admitted that he needed help and then begged me to stay with him and work through it.  Shame on me, I thought about it.  I asked my mother and best friend for advice and was shocked that my mother’s advice was to see if I could forgive him.  She is usually very protective of me, but this time she commented that if I had found out after we were married I would have had to just cope, forgive, and move on so why not do so now?

Even if I could have forgiven him, I would never have trusted him again.

So the wedding is off.

Thank you Lauri for helping me listen to myself.  I can see now that I knew more than I was ready to admit.  Driving through the rain in my dream definitely seems like the sadness I have felt trying to figure out what was wrong with us, and thank goodness my inner male self knew I had to put my foot down even if it hurt my heart.

Your dreams are such a powerful part of who you are.  They are giving you answers and direction, even warnings you need to know every night of your life. Why wouldn’t you want the ability to understand these important, even life-changing messages? You can find out what your dreams mean in just seconds from now! Get instant, immediate access to my HUGE online dream dictionary (over 5800 symbols), my interactive dream journal and tons of other powerful dream working tools.  You’ll never have to wonder what your dreams mean EVER again. Find Out What Your Dreams Mean Right Now

Our dreams bring us messages every night, messages about our relationships, our career, our personal goals and even our health. It’s always fascinating to me how our dreaming mind chooses to bring those messages to us. Sometimes it brings the message in the form of a celebrity, and sometimes in the form of a person we knew from long ago. When it comes to dreams, “You never know what you’re gonna get” – to quote Forrest Gump. My favorite dream messenger is the animal. American Indians believe we all have an animal spirit guide that helps us walk through life. This is especially true when it comes to our dreams. The animals that appear in your dreams are there to help you with your current circumstances, no matter how annoying the animal may be…

Dear Lauri,
I had a dream that I was cleaning in my kitchen under my ex-husband’s stove and two mice bit my hands, one on each hand, on the fleshy part under my little fingers and they wouldn’t let go no matter how hard I tried to shake them off. They just bit in harder. Then I woke up. Weirdest one I’ve had in a while. – Branwyn 37, Wausau, WI

Lauri: How recently did he become an ex? Sounds like you are trying to cleanse yourself of frustration and negativity that may still remain. The stove is interesting as it may point to plans, ideas, etc. that you’ve got cooking up but are hindered by the ex in some way, since it was his stove. The two mice are connected to two particular issues that are pestering and annoying and gnawing away at you right now. It’s annoying when we find a mouse in the house and even more annoying to find that said mouse has been gnawing away at the walls, wires or insulation! So these dream mice are letting you know that you’ve allowed something unwelcome into your psyche and it is time to exterminate it! They bit you because the situation must really “bite” as far as you’re concerned. It is significant that they bit your hands as that is the way your dream is showing you that this isn’t anything you can’t handle.

Branwyn replies: We’ve been divorced for over seven years. The two issues I have right now are the ongoing issues with him concerning our kids and having a really hard time finding a job. I would like to move away to find work but am kind of stuck with a rule that says I can only move a certain distance away from where he lives because of shared custody. It’s been frustrating for a long time. So yes, your interpretation fits perfectly with what’s happening in my life. Thank you so much! I’ll be more aware of those kinds of messages in my future dreams.

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