Why dreaming about an old flame can be good for you!! May 7th, 2010
Every Wednesday I get to dissect a sex or relationship dream for my friends at Em and Lo: Sex, Love and Everything In Between This week’s dream is from a woman who is wondering why she’s dreaming about an old flame…
I have a reoccurring dream that is driving me crazy. I am in a seven year relationship but I keep having a dream about this guy I still have feelings for who I had a fling with. In this dream it’s always a family member telling me that “John Doe” is here to see me and I’ll get ready to see him but I never do. Something always ends up happening so I am unable to see him. When I’m with my significant other I find myself thinking about my old fling and actually wanting to see him. Please help!
Lauri: It’s common to continue to dream about someone who really “lit our fire” even decades after we were with them. As time goes on, the person no longer represents him or herself but rather the excitement and passion that we experienced when we were with them. In my research I’ve found that these old flames tend to pop into our dreams when our current relationship becomes a little too routine or when our life becomes hum drum. The inner mind will bring this person into our dreams to remind us that it is time to re-ignite our inner spark, time to bring the excitement and passion that person represents back into our waking life or current relationship. Remember, it’s the feelings that they are connected to, not the person.
But what concerns me though is that you said you had a fling with this person. Does that mean it was a brief romantic relationship during your current seven year relationship? Or did this fling precede your current relationship? Whatever the case, the fact that you are never able to see him in your dreams is where the message lies. You mentioned that you still have feelings for him and think of him. Your wiser inner self knows that – morally – you cannot “see him” anymore because you are in a committed relationship. And if you want this relationship to continue, you need to realize that “seeing him” is no longer an option. You are no longer together for a reason.
I suggest you take that energy, those feelings your dreams give you and turn it towards your boyfriend. Whenever Mr. Ex Fling shows up in your dream, harness those passionate feelings you wake up with and put them to good use, if ya know what I mean…wink, wink!
Strange sex dreams, death of a loved one, weird things happening to your body… It’s ALL in there! Grab your copy of So, What Did You Dream Last Night? and understand your dreams like never before!
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Those that know me best also know I love Meat Loaf… no, not the mish-mash of various meats and spices that is often topped with ketchup… Meat Loaf the singer!! Back in high school when my friends were rockin’ out to REM, I was rocking out to Meat Loaf! I even had a pet tarantula I named Meat Loaf. Stop looking at me like that! He was very furry and sweet. I would also dress up as Columbia and go to The Rocky Horror Picture Show every weekend so I could dance with whomever was playing Eddie that night (Meat Loaf’s character).
Anyhoo, this morning I had the opportunity of a lifetime and I got to actually talk to him on the phone!! Here’s how it happened: A station I do every other Tuesday, WIFC in Wausau, WI with Dave and Stacy, posted on Facebook that they were going to be interviewing Meat Loaf. I commented about how much I love him and even wear my Bat Out of Hell T-shirt ad nauseum (according to my husband). So, being the thoughtful and wonderful morning duo that they are, invited me to come on the air with them when they interviewed Meatloaf. He was very cool and has a new album coming out that I will absolutely be buying. He even shared his recurring dream with me. Listen below. It was pure awesomeness!
My audio is a little low in the beginning but it gets louder just a little bit in…