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Every Monday I get to dissect a sex or relationship dream for my friends at  Em and Lo: Sex, Love and Everything In Between  This week’s dream is from a gal whose fiance cheated on her… and she took him back!!

In real life, my fiancé and I have been together for about a year and a half. Our relationship has always been long distance. We recently had a very huge fight over him cheating on me and it ended up with us together again.

Here’s my dream: we’re both in a car, me in the back and him driving. Were on a familiar road near my house that is usually busy but there is no one around. The car is just sitting in the middle of the road and he’s looking back at me through the rear view mirror. He keeps asking me if I’m ready to lose my virginity. I couldn’t hear myself answer but I kept on mouthing what I was trying to say. No matter what, he would always answer “You have to wait” and then stop looking at me and focus on the road.

Lauri: Your dream is giving you an honest look at your relationship. Your boyfriend is the one in control. He is the one behind the wheel, dictating in which direction the relationship will go. The familiar road suggests this is a familiar path you two have been on again and again… not that he has repeatedly cheated on you, but that he most likely repeatedly gets what he wants.

What worries me is that he kept asking you if you were ready to lose your virginity. Since you didn’t state otherwise in your dream report, I am assuming you are a virgin. Did your fiancé blame your virginity for his cheating? Or have you been tempted to give it up to him in order to keep him? Interesting how he is looking at you in the rear view mirror. The rear view mirror is a big-time symbol for putting something behind you. Are you wanting to put your virginity behind you? Or is he the one wanting you to make your virginity a thing of the past? Even though he is the one asking the question in the dream, you are actually the one posing this question to yourself, through his voice. Is he going to be the one you fully give yourself to?

It is also interesting that you had no voice. Perhaps you are not being heard in real life. Perhaps your inner mind is showing you that you did not state your case well enough in your fight.

I think it is important that the car was just sitting there rather than moving. Examine the progress of your relationship closely. It seems to have stalled, and for good reason. I believe your dream is telling you to pause and think this through thoroughly: Is he worthy of your most precious gift, and do you want to continue down your road of life with him? You get only one of each.

Dreams help us in every area of our lives, relationships, career, overcoming the past… you name it!  When you can understand your dreams, your life gets better because decisions are easier, tough situations are clearer and you’re just plain smarter when you dream! My book Cracking The Dream Code will help you learn your own dream language so you can get an edge in life. 

“Your books have been priceless to me! Thank you so much!!”   – Jenn, Medford, OR

Ever have one of those naughty dreams that left you blushing and embarrassed upon waking? Oh sure! We all have, whether we care to admit or not. But have you ever had one that occurred again and again for years?? That would probably make you wonder if you had hidden hedonistic tendencies, huh?

Well, a very brave gal called into WWMX in Baltimore, MD yesterday when I was on the Sarah, JoJo and Reagan morning show and confessed that she had been having orgy dreams for quite some time! Little did she know that these dreams were actually good for her…

What sort of naughty dreams have you had lately?

Strange sex partners, death of a loved one, weird things happening to your body… It’s ALL in there!  Grab your copy of So, What Did You Dream Last Night?  and understand your dreams like never before!

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Do you remember any of your dreams from childhood?  Usually the dreams we remember most are commenting on a pretty big issue that was going on at the time.

Yesterday I was on the air in Salt Lake City on KZHT when Erica called in with a dream she’d been wondering about since childhood…

Even after all these years, being able to understand that dream from long ago will be helpful to Erica because the dream gives her perspective on what her childhood was really like and how she felt about the world around her.  It’s important to gain this insight because it is powerful knowledge that will help her deal with her family now as well as the family of her own she will one day create. She should never forget that scared girl in the closet because it will – hopefully – keep her aware that the environment she provides for her future children should feel like home, not a battlefield.

What childhood dreams do you remember? The one I remember most is of a giant Willy Wonka coming into my room to eat me after he had eaten my whole family!

Dreams help us in every area of our lives, relationships, career, overcoming the past… you name it!  When you can understand your dreams, your life gets better because decisions are easier, tough situations are clearer and you’re just plain smarter when you dream! My book Cracking The Dream Code will help you learn your own dream language so you can get an edge in life. 

“I continue to enjoy my book and your website.  I really think my quality of life has improved  with my new insight into dream language.”   - Patricia Glaab, Hampton, VA

Every Monday I get to dissect a sex or relationship dream for my friends at 
Em and Lo: Sex, Love and Everything Inbetween  This week’s dream is very… WET!

I’m driving by the park in the town where I live. It’s very hot and humid and it starts to rain (a lot). I notice the guy I like (and have asked out with a response of yes, but due to work we couldn’t go out) running shirtless on the sidewalk, dripping in sweat and rain. As I pull over to let him in out of the rain, I notice how ripped he is. On the way to his house we stop on a side road and he looks at me, says “hi,” and we lean into each other and start making out in my truck in the rain.

Lauri: My my my, what a sultry dream! While this dream serves the purpose of wish fulfillment, it also goes a bit deeper. Weather in dreams often reflects your emotions. The heat and humidity are connected to the “hots” you have for him! You asked him out, he said yes, the heat is now on! But then there’s the rain. Is there something you are depressed about? Anything you have shed many tears over? A recent breakup perhaps? He was the one in the rain…maybe he is the one who has been bummed out. He is on the sidewalk because he has been pushed “to the side” because of work. None the less, you let him in and the make-out fest begins. Kissing in dreams is actually about communication because — like kissing — it takes two mouths to communicate. The message of your dream is: in order to bring him into your life, just as you brought him into your car, you need to engage in conversation. Make it happen sista!

Dreams help us in every area of our lives, relationships, career, overcoming the past… you name it!  When you can understand your dreams, your life gets better because decisions are easier, tough situations are clearer and you’re just plain smarter when you dream! My book Cracking The Dream Code will help you learn your own dream language so you can get an edge in life. 

Car crash dreams are another common dream we all get… and they can leave us “shaken and stirred” for days!  If you’ve dreamt of a car crash recently, don’t let it keep you from getting in your car and going where you need to go. Instead, let it advise you! 

Yesterday I was a guest on Beach 104 in Nags Head, NC.  A lady named Tammy called in with a frightening car crash dream that was actually advising her on her relationship…

Remember, your dreams aren’t there to frighten you, they are there to enlighten you! When you can understand your dreams, you’ll get goosebumps up and down your arms too, just like Tammy!

Dreams help us in every area of our lives, relationships, career, overcoming the past… you name it!  When you can understand your dreams, your life gets better because decisions are easier, tough situations are clearer and you’re just plain smarter when you dream! My book Cracking The Dream Code will help you learn your own dream language so you can get an edge in life. 

“Your books have been priceless to me! Thank you so much!!”   – Jenn, Medford, OR

Every Monday I get to dissect a sex or relationship dream for my friends at Em and Lo: Sex, Love and Everything Inbetween  This week’s dream is from a gal whose boyfriend dumped her because he’s gay…

I had the strangest dream involving my ex. I generally try not to think about him — he came out of the closet and I was devastated. I haven’t spoke to him in over two years, and I haven’t really dated anyone else either. Anyway here is the dream:

He and I are outside. I am sitting down at a table and he is trimming shrubs. Well he is really cutting all the leaves off and leaving only a small branchy stub. I am sitting at the table and he comes over saying that he’s tired and wants nourishment. Then he presents a hot dog. He offers me a bite, but I decline (although I feel really hungry in the dream). He offers again, but I decline again. Then he and I drink pink champagne together, but really it tastes like raspberry Schweppes (the ginger ale.)

Usually I can’t remember my dreams at all, but with this one not only do I remember; I can’t stop trying to decode it.

Lauri: I can only imagine how confusing and upsetting this must have been for you, and why you have done nothing but try to figure this out ever since. That is certainly what this dream is about… and that is what dreams are for, after all — figuring things out. So let’s delve right in, shall we?

Your dream takes place outside because he came “out” to you. And this news was probably “out in the open” for everyone else too and may have even become the gossip de jour. (You may want to ask yourself if that’s what was more devastating, the break-up or the gossip about it.) The shrubs point to the fact that he didn’t really “beat around the bush.” And he is trimming them so short because your inner mind feels he has “cut off” any opportunity for your relationship to grow and flourish. The hot dog he presents to you is exactly what you probably thought it was. Tis a very phallic symbol indeed! He presents it to you in the dream because in real life he wants you to accept that he is gay and that he “hungers” for the male anatomy. Interesting that you continue to decline even though you are hungry. Did he want to remain friends but you declined? I think your hunger in the dream indicates that you miss him.

The pink champagne is also interesting. It represents celebration. He probably was very happy to finally come out and be who he really is, and that is a call for celebration. The champagne is pink because, well that is a popular color for many gay men. But it winds up tasting like ginger ale to you because you are probably feeling cheapened by the situation and have a less than pleasant taste in your mouth.

I think this dream was very important and was trying to help you heal and accept what happened. You clearly cared about him. But you’ve let this hurt you to the point that your friendship is over and you haven’t moved on. He wasn’t trying to hurt you, betray you, do anything behind your back or get rid of you. He trusted and cared for you enough to open up and tell you the truth. I’m sure that was very difficult for him but also something he had to do for himself, for his own truth. Understandably, you weren’t in the mood to celebrate his “coming out” back then, but it might be a healing thing for you to do that now. Maybe you could look him up, see if you guys can’t get together, catch up and toast each other with a flute of pink champagne!

Dreams help us in every area of our lives, relationships, career, overcoming the past… you name it!  When you can understand your dreams, your life gets better because decisions are easier, tough situations are clearer and you’re just plain smarter when you dream! My book Cracking The Dream Code will help you learn your own dream language so you can get an edge in life. 

Dreaming of the dead is always disturbing… and even confusing. While I do believe those that have passed on can communicate with us while we are in the dream state, it is important to not look at every dream of the deceased as though it were actually them.

The following dream is a great example. When I was on the air with The Sandbox morning show on WFNX in Boston, Patty called in wanting to know why she keeps dreaming that she has to keep telling her deceased mom and dog that they are dead. Is it because they don’t believe they are dead? Is it because Patty hasn’t accepted their deaths? Or is it because of something else entirely…

As you heard, Patty was pretty darn firm in her decisions. I just wanted to make sure because… well, I can’t imagine that life for myself but hey, to each his own! God love her!!

Dreams help us in every area of our lives, relationships, career, overcoming the past… you name it!  When you can understand your dreams, your life gets better because decisions are easier, tough situations are clearer and you’re just plain smarter when you dream! My book Cracking The Dream Code will help you learn your own dream language so you can get an edge in life. 

“I continue to enjoy my book and your website.  I really think my quality of life has improved  with my new insight into dream language.”   - Patricia Glaab, Hampton, VA

When someone we love dies it’s hard to let go.  We’ll hang on tightly to anything that used to belong to them as if it were our loved one themself!

This is certainly the case with Jamie, a gal who called in while I was on the air on AJ’s Playhouse on KHTS in San Diego.  She was holding on to her deceased mother’s belongings so tightly that it was giving her bad dreams…

If you are going through grief, your dreams can be a very tangible and powerful tool in your healing process.  My book  So, What Did You Dream Last Night? has a whole chapter on dreams after death, what to expect to dream about, how they can help you heal and how you can tell when it is an actual contact from the other side!

“Although I am not normally the dramatic type, I just thought you’d like to hear that your books have made a difference in my life.  Because of your books, I am more aware and open to my dreams and translating them is starting to seem effortless.   - Victoria, Las Vegas, NV

Every Monday I get to dissect a sex or relationship dream for my friends at Em and Lo: Sex, Love and Everything Inbetween  This week’s dream is from a gal whose regretting her one night stand…

To start you must know the characters in my dream, there were only two… me and my male neighbor (I live in a townhouse, so he’s really close). In real life a week ago, we had sex. We’ve never dated, he seemed to fancy me, so I invited him over to my place for a movie. Well, we never watched the movie and one thing led to another, it was cheap sex on the couch, then he left. I felt it went too fast and was a mistake, clearly he isn’t right for me. That next week I tried to contact him and invite him on a hike or something via email and phone but couldn’t get communication going. His last email read, “I’m laying low for now I want to get back with my girlfriend Donna.” I haven’t talked to him since.

So… Last night I was dreaming he was in bed with me wanting to give me a massage — no sex involved, he promised. I was very sleepy and just wanted to fall asleep peacefully. I finally took off my clothes and lay there, he spooned me and I told him to get out and go home! He jumped in the shower for 5 seconds, I thought that was a very short shower. I sat in the chair in the bedroom and put on a shirt and was about to put on some pants when he came in the room and fired I think about 5 shots in my chest. I actually felt the blood ooze down my crossed arms, it seemed so real. Then I softly said “I knew it.”

Startled with this, I woke up and had trouble getting back to sleep. I wondered in those waking hours if this dream was telling me something to beware of with him. I live alone and am very frightened now. Please help.

Lauri: I would not bet the farm that this dream means your neighbor will do physical harm to you (although I am all for women being able to take care of themselves as I am a black belt myself!). I do, however, believe this dream reflects the deep emotional harm that has been done.

In the dream you promise each other no sex because that is how you wish you could redo it… no sex. And perhaps this is even a promise you and your wiser dreaming self are making: no sex so darn fast next time (no matter who it may be)! He is massaging you in the dream because you want to relax and feel better about the situation. You throw him out because you want the whole negative experience out of your mind.

But notice how quick his shower was! That is connected to how quickly he washed himself of you. And that is precisely what hurts the most and why you were shot in the chest in your dream. The chest is where the heart is and where we carry our emotions. You have been emotionally wounded by this whole ordeal. Your arms are crossed at the end of this dream because that shows us your desire to protect yourself from further heartache.

At the end you say, “I knew it,” not because you knew he was going to shoot you, but because you intuitively knew this situation was not going to turn out well the moment you pulled your pants down in real life. Chalk this up to a lesson learned and get on with your life knowing you’re a little wiser for the wear.

Dreams help us in every area of our lives, relationships, career, overcoming the past… you name it!  When you can understand your dreams, your life gets better because decisions are easier, tough situations are clearer and you’re just plain smarter when you dream! My book Cracking The Dream Code will help you learn your own dream language so you can get an edge in life. 

“Your books have been priceless to me! Thank you so much!!”   – Jenn, Medford, OR