I died, went to a pirate ship then came back to life! February 8th, 2010
Every Wednesday I get to dissect a sex or relationship dream for my friends at Em and Lo: Sex, Love and Everything In Between This week’s dream is from a guy who died…
I dreamed that I died and I ended up in a place where there were other people walking around. Everyone knew we were dead and there were buildings and rooms, it looked like the world we live in today. I kept feeling like I urgently needed to come back to the living, especially go back to my girlfriend, and I was desperately looking for a way to come back to life. There were people there I knew but I don’t remember who they are and someone told me they knew how to come back to life. He told me when an old man whistled (or maybe it was hummed) there is a chance to get through.
I don’t remember what happened next but we did something to get through whatever that was and I was underwater deep under the sea on an old wooden pirate ship. Everyone was dead aboard the ship and it was carrying me to up to the surface. They knew I was on board with this other person and were trying to catch us and get rid of us and we somehow disabled the ship and escaped.
From this point on I don’t know what happened to the other person but next thing I know I’m alive, I feel a huge pressure in my chest and I’m going to see my girlfriend and family. I find her and my family and I’m with her and I think I’m holding her and all the pressure is released from my chest and a sensation of relief comes over me. I don’t remember how long I was dead for though, could have been 6 days, 6 weeks, or 6 years. (Kind of eerie I would remember it like that, 6-6-6). That was all that happened but I remember thinking in my dream how my body was in perfect condition and I thought how maybe it should have been decayed or rotting but it wasn’t. I hope you can help, I’ve never died then come back to life in a dream before! Thanks!
Lauri: Dreaming of one’s own death can be very concerning, but you may be happy to know it’s also pretty common. Death, to the dreaming mind, is connected to something changing or ending in waking. In what way has your life — as you now know it — come to an end or changed? Is there something you have had to let go of? Any issue you have had to lay to rest? Or perhaps you’ve become dead to the world in some way. Have you become cold and unemotional?
Throughout the dream you are trying to come back to life so you can get back to your girlfriend. What is it you are trying to revive in the real world? Did your relationship go through some turmoil and are you trying to get it back to the way it was? Or are you trying to get yourself back to the way you were so you can enjoy your current relationship? That may be what the old pirate ship is about. Ships in dreams are often connected to a relationship. Is there an old relationship that went horribly wrong and that caused you to submerge your anxieties rather than deal with them?
Long story short, it seems that you may have gotten something off your chest, hence the release of pressure from your chest in the dream. Your body is in perfect condition because, despite what you thought, you did not sustain any serious emotional damage from the past. Looks like you are ready to live again!
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I dreamt my crush could juggle eggs! February 1st, 2010
Every Wednesday I get to dissect a sex or relationship dream for my friends at Em and Lo: Sex, Love and Everything In Between This week’s dream is from a woman who has a crush on a co-worker…
I have had a crush on a co-worker for months, but I’ve been in a monogamous relationship this whole time. As far as I know he’s single, but he’s higher up than I am. We’re on good terms, but have never done anything alone together, just been at company parties together and talked a bit.
I’ve had several dreams about him. The first involved him inviting me to his new apartment which was spacious and sunny; we went out on the balcony and saw people showering in the yard, then went inside and made out. The most recent dream, right after having pretty passionate sex with my real partner, entailed him inviting me over to “cook multiple eggs”; at one point he juggled the eggs and after that we had sex.
The weekend of the second dream, my boyfriend and I had a condom issue and I had to get Plan B, so I was worried about eggs in a vague way and also ate duck eggs for the first time. I was angry at my partner, too, because he thought I was getting too upset about needing to get Plan B for the second time in a few years.
Lauri: “We always long for the forbidden things, and desire what is denied us.” So sayeth French writer Francois Rabelais. When we cannot get what we want in waking life, the dreaming mind will kindly compensate, and your dreams are fine examples of that. In your first dream you are invited to your crush’s new apartment because in waking life you desire to be invited into his life. His apartment is spacious and sunny because you may very well have hidden hope that he has space for you in his heart and hope for a bright future with him.
The showering people are interesting! They are showering out in the open which is very symbolic of “coming clean” and getting your feelings “out in the open.” That is why the next thing you do is make out. Kissing in a dream can always be connected to conversation in waking life, conversation that recently happened or conversation that needs to happen.
In the second dream, the “multiple” eggs have multiple relevance. Of course, they are connected to your fear that one of your own eggs may be in danger of fertilization. Then there is the connection of trying duck eggs for the first time, and then the third connection is to the old saying “Don’t put all your eggs in one basket.” You have a crush on another guy and were mad at your guy at the time of this dream. It’s only natural to – at least subconsciously – wonder what another’s basket may be like. And your crush juggles the eggs because… well, when one takes action on their forbidden desires for another, some careful juggling must be done. Just ask Tiger!
But rather than attempting to do a dangerous juggle, you may want to do some introspection first and ask yourself which desire is stronger, the desire for someone else or the desire to continue your current relationship. Just remember, it’s called a crush for a reason… sometimes it’s not reciprocated.
Response from dreamer: Thank you! Sometimes things are obvious once someone else tells us them.
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I keep dreaming of anorexic women January 29th, 2010
Every Wednesday I get to dissect a sex or relationship dream for my friends at Em and Lo: Sex, Love and Everything In Between This week’s dream is from a woman who keeps dreaming of anorexic women…
I’ve been having a series of dreams in which I feel serious affection for other women. In each dream I see an unknown woman across a room or whatever and it’d be like a meeting I’ve always wanted — like love at first sight. And it’d always be very secretive and exciting and passionate. It can stop at looking, but most of the time it ends with making out or even sex.
Sometimes the details are so strong that I remember the girls as if they are an actual memory, and the last one was called Izzy. Furthermore the girls are always very skinny, maybe even anorexic-like, and I find it very attractive. I’ve been dieting a lot lately with eating-disordered tendencies, but not at an extreme stage.
In real life I really don’t feel awkward about the dreams but rather I actually wish they were real! For as far as I know I’m straight, but I’m sure I’d be able to love another woman all the same. Are these dreams a reflection of my life and thoughts?
Lauri: Dreams are thoughts. Dreaming is a thinking process, but rather than thinking in words we are thinking in symbols, pictures and stories; this is because our night thoughts (our dreams) happen in the subconscious mind rather than the conscious mind. It’s a different language but still just as important — if not more –than waking language because we are far more honest and insightful when we dream. Any emotion you feel in a dream is directly connected to current waking life emotions.
The desire you feel for these women in your dreams isn’t actually connected to a waking life desire for women but rather a waking life desire to have the waif-like, heroin-chic image that the girls in your dreams have. I believe your dream is very insightful as to what is going on in the minds of women who suffer from eating disorders. Your dream shows us how strong that desire is to have a smaller frame than you perceive yourself to have… so strong that it is equivalent to sexual desire. As we all know, sexual desire is one of the hardest desires to control!
Interesting that one of the girls even had a name. This is actually a good sign. It shows us that you are aware and have “identified” the fact that you may actually have a problem. Recognizing it is always the first step. I hope that you will address this issue before it gets out of hand because your very life is at stake! Please do it now before it is too late.
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Ever have that dream where you’re chopping someone up? January 22nd, 2010
I’ve obviously been doing this dream thing for too long because, even though I have not personally had the “chopping someone up” dream, I have had it reported to me many times! So much so that I believe it is probably fairly common, perhaps even more than we might think; because odds are, there are oodles of fine, upstanding, perfectly sane folks out there that have had the dream… but are too afraid to admit it.
I was on the Rod Ryan Show yesterday, which airs out of KTBZ in Houston, TX and is simulcast in New Orleans when Rod read an email from a listener who had this very dream. Once you understand the meaning of this less-than-pleasant dream, you’ll see why it is pretty common. If you’re dying to know, then forward the audio below to the 6:24 mark. Otherwise, go ahead and listen to it all. You’ll find out why Rod can’t ever have a sex dream, what it means when you dream of falling, of being trapped, teeth falling out and more!
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Why do I keep dreaming of my messy ex relationship? January 12th, 2010
Every Wednesday I get to dissect a sex or relationship dream for my friends at Em and Lo: Sex, Love and Everything In Between This week’s dream is from a woman who can’t stop dreaming about her ex…
I’ve been with my boyfriend for two months. We’re very happy, he’s my best friend, and I’m head over heels in love with him. However, I’ve been having regular dreams about my ex-boyfriend. I was with him for 18 months, and we ended messily after I confessed I’d cheated. I later found out he’d cheated on me as well. In the dreams, we’re either together again and happy, or I’m trying to get him to come back to me, or I’m out for revenge. Why do I still dream about him when I’m happy with my current boyfriend?
Lauri: You may indeed be happy with your current boyfriend but odds are… you are not happy with yourself and the way things went down with the ex. You see, the majority of our dreams are caused by unresolved issues and your feelings and thoughts regarding your past relationship are clearly unresolved. Your variety of dreams involving him show us the inner conflict of emotions you still have about the whole thing.
The dreams where you are together and happy are connected to your feelings of wanting to be at peace with the relationship and wanting to remember the good times from it. The dreams where you are trying to get him back are connected to the guilt you have for doing him wrong. And, of course, the dreams where you try to get revenge are connected to your anger that he went and did you wrong too! Whew. I’m emotionally depleted from going over all that! As long as you continue to have conflicting emotions you will continue to have these dreams.
Since you can’t undo it, you may as well learn from it so that your current relationship doesn’t wind up an angry, guilt-riddled mess as well. Simply taking on the mindset of “lesson learned” and “wiser for the wear” is all it takes to make the dreams stop.
Dreamer’s Response: I’d say you’re spot on with your analysis! I feel bad about the way it all ended and wish I could undo it all. It’s good to know that I can, and should, just move on. Thank you!
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I dreamed I cheated on my boyfriend… with my boyfriend! January 5th, 2010
Every Wednesday I get to dissect a sex or relationship dream for my friends at Em and Lo: Sex, Love and Everything In Between This week’s dream is from a VERY confused woman who had a cheating dream with a twist…
Recently, I had a very strange dream: I was making out with a guy, when suddenly, my boyfriend walks in, I hurriedly let go of the other guy and start apologizing to my boyfriend. Seems to be a rather logical scenario, right? Weird thing is: the guy I’m making out with, when my boyfriend walks in on me, is actually my boyfriend! Basically, I’m cheating on my boyfriend with my boyfriend.
We’re in a relationship of 3.5 years now, with weekly sleepovers, dying to move in together but forced to wait — I’m in my last year of college, he’s looking for a job — and I don’t really get what this dream means. I really love him, I’m sure we’ve got a future together, but cheating on him with him somehow seems significant. Could you help me understand?
Lauri: You are correct! This dream is indeed significant! But it’s not so much about the cheating element as it is about the making-out element. Kissing in a dream is actually about intimate communication because — like kissing — it takes two mouths to communicate. The day before this dream, do you recall having a deep, intimate and meaningful conversation with your boyfriend? And did it seem unusual or out of the ordinary in anyway? Did it allow you to see your boyfriend in a new light? Did you learn something new about him? Did you see a different part of him? Was there any element to the conversation that made you realize that he isn’t who you thought he was… but in a good way (hopefully)?
There is also a hint of guilt in this dream that we must explore. The guilt you feel in the dream is directly connected to something you feel a little guilty about in waking life. Did your boyfriend perhaps show you a side of him that you rather liked but he was embarrassed about? Perhaps you delighted in him showing you his vulnerable side, which perhaps goes against who he likes to portray himself as? What in real life did you apologize to him for? Did you laugh at something he didn’t think was funny?
Whatever the case, it seems your BFF has two sides to him that conflict with or contradict each other but that you kinda dig.
Response from Dreamer:
Well, I did have this dream shortly after we had a serious conversation about his job hunting. He had to quit college about a year ago and still hasn’t found a job. Times are though, but I was afraid maybe he wasn’t searching hard enough. Thing is… He kept the job-hunting for at home; when he’s over at my place, he wants to forget about the stressful hunt for a while. He told me he sends out about five applications a day when he’s home, but that he gets answers for maybe one in ten.
I feel kind of guilty for not trusting him about the job hunting. People keep asking me why he hasn’t got a job yet, did he apply at [insert some company's name here] allready, because it would really be something for him. Their questions made me feel as if I should push him more. He is serious about finding a job, and getting frustrated about being denied every chance.
I feel guilty for doubting him and sad for not being able to change a thing. Happy that he finally opened up about it though, he can be quite tight lipped about his fears and worries.
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Mega TV producer Chuck Lorre’s “Mother” dream January 3rd, 2010
Ever watch the show Two and a Half Men (one of my very favorites!) and as the end credits roll you see a snap shot of a message? It’s literally on screen, at the end of the credits, for one second. Well, hubby and I happen to Tivo all the Two and a Half Men episodes and watch them during breakfast in the morning. One morning dear hubby decided to pause the Tivo when that sneaky message popped up, and so we read it… and we laughed… and we laughed a little more.
These little messages are called vanity cards, and Chuck Lorre, Producer of Two and a Half Men, The Big Bang Theory and Dharma and Greg (a not too shappy resume!) puts these vanity cards at the end of all of his shows. They are his rantings, ravings, and humorous observations about… well anything! They are well worth the pasue button!
I know, this seems like a random thing to blog about, but the reason I am is because of the vanity card I read today after watching a recorded Two and a Half Men. It was a dream Chuck Lorre had about his mother AND he even provides his own – surprisingly insightful – Jungian analysis!! I thought I would share it with you…
CHUCK LORRE PRODUCTIONS, #110
THE DREAM: I’m in a cemetery, attending a funeral. I’m not sure whose it is. My mother, who died a year ago, is there — alive but not well. We leave the funeral and I take her back to a place I used to live that is now unfurnished and cold. There is no food there. I leave her there anyway. I then find myself shopping in a supermarket while holding a baby swaddled in a blanket. The supermarket is run by young people. They play rock music too loudly for a supermarket and seem to be having a good time. I keep losing the baby, putting it down and forgetting where I put it. I select two items and go to the checkout stand where I’m told that one of the items, some sort of raisin bread, is very expensive. I tell the check-out girl I don’t want the raisin bread and then realize I’ve lost the baby again. Thankfully I find the baby but then decide I can’t leave my mother in an empty house. I hurry off to bring her back to where I now live, a comfortable home with all the amenities.
MY ANALYSIS: The funeral is for my inauthentic self. The self that’s been conditioned by parents, culture and environment to survive by whatever means necessary. It is a frightened, angry thing which I’m just now realizing is not my true identity. My mother played a powerful role in its formation. I take her to a barren place because I have not been able to confront nor integrate her influence into my consciousness. The baby is my authentic self. The essential soul that exists before conditioning. I alone am responsible for that self’s well-being and am constantly abandoning it in favor of the illusory comfort of the false self. The supermarket is filled with food, music and youthful energy which symbolizes the wisdom, creativity and vitality which nurtures the soul. There is a high price to pay for these things. It is the price of freedom. I balk at paying that price. Finally, I retrieve my mother and bring her back to the nice house, which means I’m ready to bring her influence in my life up to a conscious level.
CONCLUSION: My wakeful thinking is not drenched in metaphor, therefore the dream must have originated from some eternal source of compassionate wisdom, or, I shouldn’t read books about Jungian psychology before I go to sleep.
I’m engaged. Why am I dreaming about my first crush? December 15th, 2009
Every Wednesday I get to dissect a sex or relationship dream for my friends at Em and Lo: Sex, Love and Everything In Between This week’s dream is from a gal who is dreaming about her first crush…
I’m about to get married. I dreamt of my crush for the first time. I know he likes and love me but he pushed me away because of the distance. In my dream he visited me we had dinner together , we had a short chat and we went joy riding. I never expected to dream of him.
Lauri: Congratulations and Mazel Tov on the upcoming nuptials! Let me assure you that your dream is not anything to worry about but rather is a good sign you are moving into the mindset of marital bliss in a very healthy manner.
It is common to dream of past loves before stepping into that final frontier we call marriage. It is the way your inner mind sorts through and comes to terms with all the men that came before THE ONE! All the previous men were lessons well learned, preparing you for the man you finally feel comfortable sharing the rest of your life with. And it is no surprise that your first love, or first crush, may run through your dreaming mind at this point in time. Why he was the first one to ever give you those tingly feelings within various body parts. He was the first one to bring out that inner desire and yearning that feels so good it aches!! He awakened you to those feelings that will forever be with you… and that is why he is in this dream and – let me warn you – may very well continue to make appearances in your dreams for quite some time.
But keep in mind he is no longer playing himself. Nay, he is the personification of excitement, tingles and bubbles, which means he will forever be a reminder to your inner mind that you need to continue to feed that passion within (hence the dinner) for as long as you journey down the road of life (hence the joy ride). In other words, as your marriage becomes more and more comfortable and more and more routine, don’t let the excitement and the spice fade… because when it does, Mr. first-time crush is sure to pop in to your dreams to remind you to keep the passion alive!
Dreams help us in every area of our lives, relationships, career, overcoming the past… you name it! When you can understand your dreams, your life gets better because decisions are easier, tough situations are clearer and you’re just plain smarter when you dream! My book Cracking The Dream Code will help you learn your own dream language so you can get an edge in life.
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Ever dream of traveling into space? December 12th, 2009
Spaceships, UFOs, rockets, space shuttles, all these vehicles are capable of traveling not only high into the sky but beyond this world, so when they travel into our dreams they represent our extreme high hopes of being able to travel above and beyond our personal world as we now know it.
A great example of such a dream came from radio personality Cowhead, who can be heard on 102.5 The Bone here in Tampa, FL. I was on his show back in April when he relayed an interesting dream he had about the space shuttle…
What about you? What kind of space travel or UFO dreams have you had? Can you connect them to high hopes you have for yourself?
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Do my girl-on-girl dreams mean I’m bi-curious? December 7th, 2009
Every Wednesday I get to dissect a sex or relationship dream for my friends at Em and Lo: Sex, Love and Everything In Between This week’s dream is from a gal who has been getting some girl on girl action in her dreams…
So I’ve been having a lot of wet dreams lately. That fact I find normal. But it’s who I’m having them with that I’m curious about. For some reason they are always with women. Recently I’ve even had a dream about a steamy encounter with one of my best girlfriends. Does that mean I am bi-curious or is that normal?
Lauri: If having a naughty dream about the same gender meant you were bi-curious, why we’d all be AC/DC! So to answer your question, yes. T’is quite normal indeed. In my research, it is not uncommon for same gender sex dreams to come in waves or spells such as yours. This is not unlike having a wave of say, falling dreams. In fact, I’ve personally been having a wave of fire dreams! The reason dream themes sometimes come in waves is because the issue or behavior they are connected to goes on for as long as the dreams do. That being said, let’s see if we can’t figure out what is triggering these girl-on-girl dreams for you.
The first thing you have to keep in mind is that sex dreams are not usually about sex at all but rather a uniting or merging of ideas, mindsets or energies. Random or unknown women often represent female or yin energy, which is typically creativity, sensitivity, the ability to nurture and to be a good listener… the qualities generally associated with women. Lesbian dreams are VERY common with pregnant women, for example, because there is nothing more “feminine” than being in incubator mode. Have you been particularly creative, nurturing or sensitive lately?
Now let’s look at your friend. Only you know for sure if you secretly desire her lady garden, but odds are this dream came at a time when the two of you had some sort of meeting of the minds, when the two of you really “came together” on some level, or perhaps put up a united front about something. You may have even recently taken on one of her behaviors or qualities as your own, you may have merged a part of her into you. Whatever the case, the dream is a really good sign that you two are definitely on the same wave length!
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